Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Mistakes...we all make them.

Many of us have made mistakes. I am learning that there is nothing wrong with making a mistake as long as you learn from it.

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes; it takes more grit to forgive them for having witnessed your own. ~Jessamyn West


Mistakes are a part of life. Some mistakes are small, like making a right turn instead of a left, passing a street we should turn on, forgetting a time for an appointment. Some mistakes are a bit more detrimental; saying no when we really meant yes. Holding back our feelings or putting up a wall against those who need us most, making poor decisions and just doing wrong. All of them are a learning process. Some are more painful than others and we will have regret. Though I made a left and was suppose to go right I can make a U turn and be back where I started. Sometimes you have to go out of the way to get back in the direction you need to go.
Every time I use a GPS and don't follow the directions exactly it will say recalculating, then gives me further direction to get out of the jam I got in. Even worse sometimes it does not say anything for a while because it is thinking or internally recalculating and you’re waiting for that voice for direction. When you’re in a place that is unfamiliar it can be confusing, frustrating and downright scary. Have you ever been lost in New York City? YIKES!!
Never the less, with almost all mistakes you can correct them by rerouting or finding a different approach, however, we can't get the time back it took to make the mistake and the time it may take to correct it. Some correction is almost an immediate fix others may take some time; this is where the enemy can get really busy in your life. Through lack of self-control, patience and humility, conviction he can really make a mess of you taking the wrong turn.
In my walk with Christ, he has shown me that no matter the mistake I make he forgives me. I tend to take this same approach with people. To many times we take peoples mistakes and crucify them with it. Unfortunately, when we feel we have penalized them enough they are beyond repair or it takes longer than we want for the repair to take place.
Now with God it's different. Once we admit we made a mistake, he then has an expectation of us, just like we have an expectation of him when we are faithful. I learned that when I don't follow the directions of the GPS, if I am patient and LISTEN it recalculates then tells me what I need to do. In order to get back on track and be rerouted I must be obedient to the instruction. After the mistake when we repent or travel the road he expects, he has a way of taking us to a higher level than before, higher than we can imagine, because obedience is better than sacrifice. Being obedient in doing what we have learned to be right. He knows our hearts so he knows when we have truly repented from the mistake, but man does not know another man’s heart. Many times there’s a false representation of a man’s heart being displayed, but sooner or later it will come out.
But to God be the glory that he is an all knowing God; a God that sees all and hears all.
God I thank you for allowing me to make mistakes and I thank you even more for allowing me the opportunity to repent and correct them. I praise you for your patience with me, a patience that surpasses a man’s understanding. Show me your ways Lord so I may not stray.

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes; it takes more grit to forgive them for having witnessed your own. ~Jessamyn West

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Share a heart!

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Some people feel that it is not their business to help someone,but I ask; is it not our job to take care of our neighbor. If not ours, then who's is it. What I mean is suppose one day you where stranded somewhere with no cellular reception, no power to your vehicle and there is not a car or person in sight.

After 2hrs you see a light from afar coming up the road towards you.
Tell me wouldn't you have hopes that someone takes a moment to care.
HMMMM!


As a fitness professional and gym patron I feel it is my duty to encourage someone striving on a treadmill or leaving aerobics class, because I have no idea what it took for them to get there nor do I know what they go home to. All in all, it is rewarding to the heart to see a smile of hope. I don't have to describe what this smile looks like because you know it when you see it and it is felt from both sides. It is inspiring to self when we are able to inspire someone else.


Allow God to use you and be the hope in someones life... after all, life is to short to not have hope and it is even shorter to not have that hope fulfilled.

Remember, be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Monday, August 30, 2010

God does not lose focus, we do!

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
~Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

I used to want to make a difference and make a change in this world and now I realize I must be the change I wish to see in the world.


We can get so caught up in the big picture that we lose focus of the small important details that make the big picture.
When I am growing in Christ there is a sense of assurance no man or women can provide no matter what I'm faced with. However, when I am drifting away or losing focus he has a tendency to strip away all the distractions and obstacles. Not sure if people understand that God is a jealous God and when Christians start to focus on man or things He will shake things up to get your attention that HE provides all our needs and gives us our desires (wants) of our hearts. It's sometimes painful because the truth comes out and the truth is how he can set us free.

At times, I want something to work so bad that I fight what he is showing me and telling me. The saying to thine own self be true. Well when you are a child of God, self is Christ. Because He lives in every child of God.

So today I will refocus on my heavenly Father as I have in the past. I'm ever so grateful that he does not lose focus of my life the way I have lost focus on him. That's the kind of God I serve and will serve him in spirit and in truth.

Thank you Father for reminding me that I am never alone and you are with me regardless.

Friday, August 13, 2010

The Plan

Make me go in the path of Your commandments, for in them do I delight.
— Psalm 119:35

Go to sleep at night with a plan in mind for the next day. Don’t be vague about what you hope to accomplish. One morning I was lying in bed when the Spirit of the Lord said to me, “Stop being ambiguous.” The dictionary defines ambiguous as “doubtful or uncertain,” and “capable of being understood in two or more possible senses or ways.”

Don’t be double-minded. Don’t just wait to see what happens. Wake up with a plan that puts God first in all you do. God’s Word is a lamp to your feet, and a light to your path (See Psalm 119:105). Talk to Him before you even get out of bed; ask Him to make clear what you need to achieve today.

Joyce Meyer Ministry

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

The Truth

The truth hurts- it is hard to hear the truth.

A friends told me the other day remember when you point one finger at someone there is usually 4 fingers pointing back at yourself. Well I will only point when I am looking in a mirror ;).

Many times I have prayed and ask God for direction and he gives it BUT sometimes it's not what I wanted to hear.
Well sometimes this happens with people in our lives. The truth hurts. I am learning to look deep into my mirror as I do I ask GOD show me who you want me to be and he is. The problem I am having now is as I see myself and attempt to change I find others may not accept your change or agreement to change no support as you attempt to fix it. Sometimes we can say things and have the expectations of it reacting in one direction and it actually goes in another. A direction we where not prepared for it to go. I am now at a point in my life where I will not throw my views around I will listen closely for Gods guide and giving me the spirit of discernment. I am simply reflecting my life because this is not a rehearsal this is my life. For those who can relate I know this is where God uses me and uses my mistakes. For those who can't relate I ask that you carry on in love. God is saying clearly to me that I can't be perfect for everyone but I can be for him. Thank you Lord. Because pleasing man is very fatiguing. Pleasing myself has been a chore because I feel I am never good enough. But God is showing me something in all my flaws he is teaching me so much and in my convictions of these flaws I am choosing to change.

Its actually good to have flaws but when they hurt others,ourselves and hinder my growth in Christ well then I gotta check myself.

A friends told me the other day remember when you point one finger at someone there is usually 4 fingers pointing back at yourself. Well I am not pointing fingers anymore. Nope only when I am looking in the mirror.

Monday, June 21, 2010

The power of words

Stick and stones, may break my bones, but words will never hurt me

Remember that little rhyme from childhood?

It's wrong.More than that, it's a lie. Words are very powerful. Words can hurt or heal, build up or tear down, comfort or curse.

According to Mike Gordon, pastor at CenterPoint Church in Florida, very few of us are prone to slice and dice our partner with our words.

At the same time, most of us are guilty of making little cuts, or "nicking" those we love with our words.

Have you nicked your partner lately?

And no, I do not mean shaving. I mean nicking with your words. The little cuts and jabs, the sarcasm and put-downs we sometimes carelessly throw out there.

It took me just about the entire first year of marriage to figure out that what some of my friends found hilarious, my wife did not find at all amusing at best, and cut and hurt her at worst.

Other folks excuse "nicking" as just being brutally honest. In my experience, most of the folks who brag about being brutally honest enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.

"The genius of communication is the ability to be both totally honest and totally kind at the same time."

The power of the tongue

Our tongue, and the words that come from it, has incredible power. Words have the power to hurt or to heal, to tear down or build up, and to curse or comfort.

How have you been using your words with the one you say you love? If you realize you have been doing some nicking up until now, here are two things you can do:

1) Make a commitment to use your words to comfort not curse, heal not hurt, build up not tear down

2) Go to your love and apologize for nicking in the past and let the one you love know you intend to change this bad habit. The words could be something like:

"I realize I have nicked you and hurt you with my words, and I apologize and hope you can forgive me. I'm also making a commitment to you to control my tongue in the future."

A word of warning as you apologize. I know of one gentlemen who apologized by saying "I need to tell you I am sorry for nicking you." Well, somehow what she heard was "I want to apologize for Nicky."

You can imagine how the conversation took an unexpected detour from there.

The above example, and the one below, demonstrate just how very much the words we choose to use matter to those we love.

Different words, different result

A country boy fell head over heels for a little girl who lived down the lane. The problem was, every time he got around her, his knees shook and he stammered when he tried to speak. He just had no clue about how to talk to this girl.So one day he went to town and followed a city boy who was known for being good with the ladies, trying to pick up some tips. The country boy listened as the city boy looked deep into the eyes of his girlfriend and said "Your beauty could make time stand still."

"That's it!" he said, and rushed back to the country and found his girl. Taking her by the hand under the apple tree, he looked deep into her eyes and said, "Your face could stop a clock."

Same content. Different words. Very different result.

Remember, you have a choice, hurt or heal, tear down or build up, curse or comfort.
Which words would you like to use, and which words would you like to be used with you?

This has taught me to look at myself and I pray it helps you in some way too.

Taken from Jeff Herring is a Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Syndicated Relationship Columnist.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Light Shines Through Cracked Pots! (from Joyce Meyers)

Let not those who wait and hope and look for You, O Lord of hosts, be put to shame through me; let not those who seek and inquire for and require You [as their vital necessity] be brought to confusion and dishonor through me, O God of Israel.
— Psalm 69:6

I just had to share this one-

Everyone is like a pot that carries life. But not everyone carries a presence that blesses others. Religion tries to force people to follow laws to make them perfect, like pots without cracks. But if a light is put within a flawless pot and then covered, no one is able to see the light inside the pot. Perfect pots are not able to reveal internal light to illumine the way for others.

God chooses to shine through imperfect, cracked pots. People are blessed when our cracked pots let the light of Jesus shine through. Choose to be a glory-filled, cracked pot rather than an empty, pretty vessel.

Now that was food for the soul-Bon appet'ite


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Saturday, May 8, 2010

Big moves

My friends, I have relocated to Charlotte NC. It has been a big change in a good way. Meeting many new people, good people. I'm having withdrawals from some of my old clients. I do miss my circle. But I am creating a new one. They are a part of my world.
I'm in business with a long time friend and I believe this is the beginning of something really grand. As a child of God I don't believe in coincidence. So this move I truly believe, is part of a big plan he has for me and my life. Our company BFIT Nutrition will have a grand opening on Monday May 10 4pm-8pm at Club Fitness 11108 S. Tryon Charlotte, NC 28273
Would love to meet you all. We will the official Grand Opening with the club on June 5,6 if your able to come we will have free samples and answer many questions on all your fitness and nutritional needs.
It has been a challenging road but I refuse to pull over. God has my back and that's all I need.

Do what you have to do
So you can do what you want to do-Denzel W.

Have a fantabulous weekend and thank you for your support.
MJ Fox, IFBB Professional Athlete FitChik4Lifetm/Certified Personal Trainer Powerblendz/NUCO FIT Representative Sent via my BlackBerry

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Flaws in Life.....

Sometimes life can throw you a serious learning curve. When you learn things about yourself that must be addressed it can feel a little overwhelming. I realize somethings in me that are good and not so good, however, God is showing me that he loves what He sees because it is an opportunity to use me. WOW! I mean me he wants to use me. I feel honored. When a situation arises and I have to address it I take a look at me. Well, unfortunately I look at me a little to hard, meaning I don't give myself any slack. Yet I allow my clients and others to have flaws but I don't accept mine.

God has used a special person in my life to help me realize I, MJ must learn to love me flaws and all. No one is perfect... that's why pencils have erasers. Right? What I don't like I am giving myself time to change it. In all of this learning, I am falling in love with self. I thought it was selfish at first but then I realize it is not at all. It is a necessary fertilizer for my growth as a child of God.There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in.
Today I say to you if you are not accepting your flaws you wont be content when others truly accept you flaws and all. I find this to be apart of unconditional love.


Unless I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues

Friday, April 2, 2010

What Good (Holy) Friday and Easter means to MJ

I was asked what Easter means to me and it was an opportunity to tell someone what he did for us.

Many of you know I am a Christian.  I don't shout it at the top of my lungs or lay hands on everyone I see, but I try to never block the light that is in me.  The light of the Lord.  Easter is a very important time of year to many and to Christians it is a renewal.  Just as Spring is to many.  Life has been a bit rough for me and so much has been happening lately. Lots of good and I wont call the rest bad I will say it has been learning curves.  Today, Good Friday is a reminder to me that God loves me regardless.  God thought enough of us that he sacrificed his ONLY son just for you and me.  Jesus was crucified and it hurts my heart, but I feel so loved today.  To know that he loved me enough to die for me, for my sins.

2010 has been full of endings and new beginnings in my life and the crucifixion of Jesus seemed like the end however, the resurrection proves the beginning. The beginning of a new life. Eternity.


I feel forever loved due to his sacrifice.  I am so thankful that His love is unconditional.

The resurrection gives my life meaning and direction and the opportunity to start over no matter what my circumstances.

Today is Good (Holy) Friday-I am grateful, for my Father thought enough to die for my (our) sins. When I feel down, I ask, Jesus you love me this much, that you died for me. Don't know if you know someone that would do that, but today I remind you that there is someone that did. Just for you and me Now that’s love.  

Many heartfilled blessings to you all to today, tomorrow and everyday.

MJ-Your FitChik4Life


Saturday, March 27, 2010

Pressing on!

A nod, a bow, and a tip of the lid to the person who coulda and shoulda and did.-Hats off to all FitChiks4Life for all your accomplishments.
 
Those that didn't meet there goal, no worries for today is a new day-press on FitChik, remember we are in this for life.
 
 
 
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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

The FitChik4Life Challenge

OK Game on!! My boot camp class is being challenged to diet down with me for my first competition of 2010, which is in 16weeks. They are stoked. I am already so proud of them.  It's a very challenging task however, it is rewarding to all of us. Already have results with a camper losing 3lbs in first week.  Keep it up ladies and gents. You are paying yourself back, by adding years to your life

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Monday, March 15, 2010

TALKING FIT!!!

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Monday, March 8, 2010

Weekend Renewal

Just returned from the Arnold Classic Expo and what a fulfilling weekend. I want thank all of my online supporters who shared with me this weekend. It was a pleasure meeting you all. We never realize that our actions are being watched until someone points them out. I'm thankful for the emails after this weekend, sharing how you all view me. I truly believe that you can be attractive n pretty on the outside however, beauty can only be from the inside. You have enriched my soul this weekend to re confirm that what I am doing means something to someone. That God is seen in all I do.
A young lady shared with me on Saturday that she was a little nervous about meeting me because so many in our sport are pretty but not very social able or they feel intimidated. Then after she met me she felt like she was renewed. I said we are not all like that many are beautiful inside and out. I thanked her for allowing me to, but it's just the God in me and the she in returned renewed me. It is a blessing to encourage because it encourages me.
To you all I say thank you. Have a magnificent Monday
Don't forget we are Talking Fit every Monday 9pm est. Live discussion on the FitChik4Life fan page on Face book click the link on the top left of this page.
MJ Fox, IFBB Professional Athlete FitChik4Lifetm/Certified Personal Trainer Powerblendz/NUCO FIT Representative Sent via my BlackBerry