The power of words

Stick and stones, may break my bones, but words will never hurt me

Remember that little rhyme from childhood?

It's wrong.More than that, it's a lie. Words are very powerful. Words can hurt or heal, build up or tear down, comfort or curse.

According to Mike Gordon, pastor at CenterPoint Church in Florida, very few of us are prone to slice and dice our partner with our words.

At the same time, most of us are guilty of making little cuts, or "nicking" those we love with our words.

Have you nicked your partner lately?

And no, I do not mean shaving. I mean nicking with your words. The little cuts and jabs, the sarcasm and put-downs we sometimes carelessly throw out there.

It took me just about the entire first year of marriage to figure out that what some of my friends found hilarious, my wife did not find at all amusing at best, and cut and hurt her at worst.

Other folks excuse "nicking" as just being brutally honest. In my experience, most of the folks who brag about being brutally honest enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.

"The genius of communication is the ability to be both totally honest and totally kind at the same time."

The power of the tongue

Our tongue, and the words that come from it, has incredible power. Words have the power to hurt or to heal, to tear down or build up, and to curse or comfort.

How have you been using your words with the one you say you love? If you realize you have been doing some nicking up until now, here are two things you can do:

1) Make a commitment to use your words to comfort not curse, heal not hurt, build up not tear down

2) Go to your love and apologize for nicking in the past and let the one you love know you intend to change this bad habit. The words could be something like:

"I realize I have nicked you and hurt you with my words, and I apologize and hope you can forgive me. I'm also making a commitment to you to control my tongue in the future."

A word of warning as you apologize. I know of one gentlemen who apologized by saying "I need to tell you I am sorry for nicking you." Well, somehow what she heard was "I want to apologize for Nicky."

You can imagine how the conversation took an unexpected detour from there.

The above example, and the one below, demonstrate just how very much the words we choose to use matter to those we love.

Different words, different result

A country boy fell head over heels for a little girl who lived down the lane. The problem was, every time he got around her, his knees shook and he stammered when he tried to speak. He just had no clue about how to talk to this girl.So one day he went to town and followed a city boy who was known for being good with the ladies, trying to pick up some tips. The country boy listened as the city boy looked deep into the eyes of his girlfriend and said "Your beauty could make time stand still."

"That's it!" he said, and rushed back to the country and found his girl. Taking her by the hand under the apple tree, he looked deep into her eyes and said, "Your face could stop a clock."

Same content. Different words. Very different result.

Remember, you have a choice, hurt or heal, tear down or build up, curse or comfort.
Which words would you like to use, and which words would you like to be used with you?

This has taught me to look at myself and I pray it helps you in some way too.

Taken from Jeff Herring is a Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Syndicated Relationship Columnist.

Light Shines Through Cracked Pots! (from Joyce Meyers)

Let not those who wait and hope and look for You, O Lord of hosts, be put to shame through me; let not those who seek and inquire for and require You [as their vital necessity] be brought to confusion and dishonor through me, O God of Israel.
— Psalm 69:6

I just had to share this one-

Everyone is like a pot that carries life. But not everyone carries a presence that blesses others. Religion tries to force people to follow laws to make them perfect, like pots without cracks. But if a light is put within a flawless pot and then covered, no one is able to see the light inside the pot. Perfect pots are not able to reveal internal light to illumine the way for others.

God chooses to shine through imperfect, cracked pots. People are blessed when our cracked pots let the light of Jesus shine through. Choose to be a glory-filled, cracked pot rather than an empty, pretty vessel.

Now that was food for the soul-Bon appet'ite


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Big moves

My friends, I have relocated to Charlotte NC. It has been a big change in a good way. Meeting many new people, good people. I'm having withdrawals from some of my old clients. I do miss my circle. But I am creating a new one. They are a part of my world.
I'm in business with a long time friend and I believe this is the beginning of something really grand. As a child of God I don't believe in coincidence. So this move I truly believe, is part of a big plan he has for me and my life. Our company BFIT Nutrition will have a grand opening on Monday May 10 4pm-8pm at Club Fitness 11108 S. Tryon Charlotte, NC 28273
Would love to meet you all. We will the official Grand Opening with the club on June 5,6 if your able to come we will have free samples and answer many questions on all your fitness and nutritional needs.
It has been a challenging road but I refuse to pull over. God has my back and that's all I need.

Do what you have to do
So you can do what you want to do-Denzel W.

Have a fantabulous weekend and thank you for your support.
MJ Fox, IFBB Professional Athlete FitChik4Lifetm/Certified Personal Trainer Powerblendz/NUCO FIT Representative Sent via my BlackBerry

Flaws in Life.....

Sometimes life can throw you a serious learning curve. When you learn things about yourself that must be addressed it can feel a little overwhelming. I realize somethings in me that are good and not so good, however, God is showing me that he loves what He sees because it is an opportunity to use me. WOW! I mean me he wants to use me. I feel honored. When a situation arises and I have to address it I take a look at me. Well, unfortunately I look at me a little to hard, meaning I don't give myself any slack. Yet I allow my clients and others to have flaws but I don't accept mine.

God has used a special person in my life to help me realize I, MJ must learn to love me flaws and all. No one is perfect... that's why pencils have erasers. Right? What I don't like I am giving myself time to change it. In all of this learning, I am falling in love with self. I thought it was selfish at first but then I realize it is not at all. It is a necessary fertilizer for my growth as a child of God.There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in.
Today I say to you if you are not accepting your flaws you wont be content when others truly accept you flaws and all. I find this to be apart of unconditional love.

Unless I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues

What Good (Holy) Friday and Easter means to MJ

I was asked what Easter means to me and it was an opportunity to tell someone what he did for us.

Many of you know I am a Christian.  I don't shout it at the top of my lungs or lay hands on everyone I see, but I try to never block the light that is in me.  The light of the Lord.  Easter is a very important time of year to many and to Christians it is a renewal.  Just as Spring is to many.  Life has been a bit rough for me and so much has been happening lately. Lots of good and I wont call the rest bad I will say it has been learning curves.  Today, Good Friday is a reminder to me that God loves me regardless.  God thought enough of us that he sacrificed his ONLY son just for you and me.  Jesus was crucified and it hurts my heart, but I feel so loved today.  To know that he loved me enough to die for me, for my sins.

2010 has been full of endings and new beginnings in my life and the crucifixion of Jesus seemed like the end however, the resurrection proves the beginning. The beginning of a new life. Eternity.


I feel forever loved due to his sacrifice.  I am so thankful that His love is unconditional.

The resurrection gives my life meaning and direction and the opportunity to start over no matter what my circumstances.

Today is Good (Holy) Friday-I am grateful, for my Father thought enough to die for my (our) sins. When I feel down, I ask, Jesus you love me this much, that you died for me. Don't know if you know someone that would do that, but today I remind you that there is someone that did. Just for you and me Now that’s love.  

Many heartfilled blessings to you all to today, tomorrow and everyday.

MJ-Your FitChik4Life

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Weekend Renewal

Just returned from the Arnold Classic Expo and what a fulfilling weekend. I want thank all of my online supporters who shared with me this weekend. It was a pleasure meeting you all. We never realize that our actions are being watched until someone points them out. I'm thankful for the emails after this weekend, sharing how you all view me. I truly believe that you can be attractive n pretty on the outside however, beauty can only be from the inside. You have enriched my soul this weekend to re confirm that what I am doing means something to someone. That God is seen in all I do.
A young lady shared with me on Saturday that she was a little nervous about meeting me because so many in our sport are pretty but not very social able or they feel intimidated. Then after she met me she felt like she was renewed. I said we are not all like that many are beautiful inside and out. I thanked her for allowing me to, but it's just the God in me and the she in returned renewed me. It is a blessing to encourage because it encourages me.
To you all I say thank you. Have a magnificent Monday
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MJ Fox, IFBB Professional Athlete FitChik4Lifetm/Certified Personal Trainer Powerblendz/NUCO FIT Representative Sent via my BlackBerry

It's good for the soul

I was talking to a friend the other day, I said how ya been? She replied with a sigh, girl, I'm making it. I said making what? She said Huh? I said yep me too. I am making today the best day of the rest of my life.  She smiled and said MJ you are something else. I said well I can't make it if I don't know what I am making. I mean that would just be a mess, I think. She said true that. I replied, SO what ya making?  She smiled and said I am making today the best day of my life MJ. We both laughed. She said, I thought you where about to get really deep on me. I said nope. She replied ok, ok I needed that laugh.

Don't think to hard on this one my friends.  The point I am making with this lil story is laughter.  It is a wonderful, priceless antidote for many things that can sometimes get us down.  Today and everyday choose to smile at someone or something. Go the opposite direction of what would normally ruin your day.  Today say, I will no longer have bad days, I am now saying well there could have been worse day and smile anyway.

Choose to look at the lesson in all things good and bad. When it seems you can't find the lesson, then don't stress it just laugh.  It will warm your heart and elevate your mental state. Go ahead, just laugh.

What soap is to the body, laughter is to the soul.

Making history!

I had no idea that history was being made. I was just tired of giving up. ~Rosa Parks Don't give up FitChiks4Life. We got goals to get. Let's get it!!

You never know what you are capable of until you are tired.  You never know how strong you are until you are physically weak.  One can go a long way when they are tired.  The human being is the most amazing thing God has created. Emotions, compassion, evil, love all these things that we display.  I am so thankful for what he is showing me at this moment.  Today, I say to you, embrace all that is coming your way. Hold your ground on what you believe to be true.  Never, let anyone take from you or convince you from what you believe.

"Now faith is the SUBSTANCE of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." (Hebrews 11:1)

Lift your head through the sandstorms, close your eyes but continue to walk

Today make history in your life.  Whether displayed to the world or just between you and God, make the change to RISE RISE RISE.

Today I am being still and knowing that God is in control.

Learning to say no!

Hoping all of you had a wonderful weekend.  I have been going through a learning phase and thought I would share it with you, as I know many can relate. I am learning to say no.  I have found that I'm always so willing to help and many times I sacrifice my sanity to do so. I am not alone on this. Many of us do this and we tend to find we are not getting the satisfaction or joy from the action of doing.

Is this a bad thing? Well, yes in some cases. I truly believe, that there should be an automatic sense of joy when you do for others, not a sigh of relief. Even when there is no thank you in return or appreciation you should feel good with just the fact that you gave of yourself to something or someone. I'm learning that when I put me on the back burner to long, I tend to not get joy in doing for others.  Now, some are reading this and maybe saying oh no! that's wrong as a Christian you should always have joy doing for others. The bible does state we should not grow weary in well doing. However, it also states that we must take time for Him.  I feel if Christ is in my heart then is that not a part of my temple which is my body? So if I am taking care of my temple (body and mind) then it is not just for me it is for him also. When I speak on doing for me,  I am referring to things like not taking my devotional time away from Christ. Being sure of getting my workouts in which is part of my therapy to handle this thing called life. Taking a short vacation away from the chaos. I think taking care of the outside is important and taking care of the inside is even more so. At the young age of 39 (smile) God is showing me some powerful things.  I would not be able to see them if I don't slow down sometimes. I am so grateful for those he is placing in my path both good and bad because it is really making me stronger and better than I've been.

So I say ALL this to say, MJ is officially doing her and in return I know I will be able to do so much more for others. Yes God is so good, all the time.

A well cared for tree bares good fruit. However, a diseased and malnourished tree may not bare any fruit at all and the if it does how healthy is it, considering it's source.

Blessings to you all this week.  BTW Update on my training- I am now 18weeks out from shine time on stage. My back has been tight but nothing major and I am steadily able to increase weight and or intensity in my workouts. My diet is starting to be more consistent.  Ya know I am always gonna keep it real for you all. Updated progress pics soon to come. I say in advance, thanks so much for your support.


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